Robust System or Systematic Loophole?

Is a robust system could effectively prevent a loophole?

A plan could be an effective tool for one to complete a task and prevent mistakes. While humans behave in their self-interests, a wise and detailed plan could lead to an overall benefit for all parties. The plan itself could be in a robust system.

The robust system is developed in an extended period with trial and error. Ideally speaking, it will make one comply with the rule by being monitored by other parties. Under the system, one may feel safe that no error could occur. However, would a robust system prevent a mistake occur?

Humans tend to do things with the least resistance. If one can do stuff easier, why should one go for a big round to have the same results? Positively, a human could find a way to solve the problem easier. On a bigger picture, the part of the cause of social and technological development.

With a tendency to share the burden of error, ignorance will make one bypassing a system. With the bypass, the system would corrupt slowly and become catastrophic. Therefore, it could form a systematic loophole, which will exacerbate the system will eventually lead to the crumbling. However, what one can do to prevent the loophole?

Anything that requires human monitoring could change to machine monitoring. Therefore, the judgement would be objective and quantitative. With the current technology, humans would create a control system with less work.

When one is a system invigilator, one should implement the system thoroughly to ensure no bypassing case. If everyone thinks others will help to check through, nobody will take responsibility for the loophole formed. Finally, a robust system will work if the people believe they are impacting the system. Without the belief, it may eventually become a systematic loophole.

“The integrity of a system depends on the people who implement it.”

How do you prevent the degradation of a robust system?

Social Circle, A Support System

How does socialization support’s one during predicament?

Human needs a constant communication to survive. When one is young, it is easier to meet up with someone and be friends spontaneously. One could socialize as much as one wants with little to no responsibility faced, at least compared to adults.

With these conditions, one could make a lifelong friend with just people who interact for a short period. It could be more challenging when one hits 30 and above, where the main focus will be career and family. With the commitment, it could be harder to spend the time to hang out with friends after graduation, yet it is not impossible.

Once one has finished the education, one could have a lesser chance to meet people casually. It may cause the shrink of the social circle that could make one less social than before. Therefore, it may raise as a social issue where may have less life satisfaction.

When one has decided to sacrifice time for social interaction, it makes one less dependent on others. However, it is inevitable for one to avoid an issue that needs friends support and suggestion. One could make a wrong decision or see things wrongly, where a friend could give some inputs to rectify the problem.

Moreover, talking about emotional support, it is enjoyable to talk with people with a similar background/interest. One could easily relate to another about anything that occurs. One could make unforgettable memories also with friends.

Therefore, for the one that feels like losing the excitement of life., initiating to contact an old friend or talk with new friends would make one’s life better. Sometimes, it is hard to maintain a relationship when one does not initiate. With the initiation and maintenance, one could have a meaningful friendship that may last for a lifetime.

Initiation is a key secret for one to maintain a support system and meaningful friendship.”

How do you maintain your social circle? Do you find your social circle as your support system?

Learning to Apologize

Is it an easy task to apologize properly? How significant is apology itself?

Every person makes a myriad of mistakes in a lifetime. The consequences of a mistake varies subjectively based on the people affected. Some faults have a temporary effect, while some induce permanent damage. While a mistake is done, a sorry is necessary to ease an afflicted heart.

For some, say sorry seems impossible because of the insistence of personal value. It may be perceived as stubbornness or selfishness. While some who never committed a mistake in an incident, a sorry could come out without a further understanding of the incident. Therefore, one needs to learn the art of sorry to ease one properly.

Human tends to stick to a habit, where the mistake is a part of it. When the same mistakes are committed repetitively, a sorry will not make one feels better. When the apology has become a norm, it is not valuable anymore. Therefore, the main focus itself should shift from the sorry to the rectification action.

For the one that receives an apology, stand in the position of the one who apologizes could help to figure out the root cause. Especially when both parties relationships are ruining, communication is more effective than a mere apology.

Furthermore, a person that easily sorry to others may seem nice. Yet, it may also be not respected by other people. Although it may seem like a friendly action, yet subconsciously people may arguably think the person is a people pleaser.

At last, in my opinion, there is no ideal apology that really could satisfy most people. Yet, sincerity and willingness to rectify a mistake is a sustainable way of apology. An apology should not be the beginning of disagreement, yet be a platform for both parties to understand each other.

How do you say sorry when you make a mistake?

Bias and Conflict

Why is bias one of the main precursors of conflict?

Bias, an inclination towards a person or a group, is instilled in people’s minds. The bias that one has could be in terms of thinking fallacy and stereotyping, etc. People have different misconceptions depends on their upbringing. With the bias in people’s minds, it infers that no judgment is infallible. When the bias has reached a certain threshold, it will cause an unnecessary conflict.

When a group is having a discussion, people will give a different idea. With the different opinions, the group argument will eventually improve and making a better decision. The bias is towards the interest of certain people in a group that dominates in the conflict.

When the decision doesn’t satisfy most people interests, an imbalance of interest will be the outcome. It would create resentment that would show in protest and conflict. The problem doesn’t lay in disagreement itself, where it is based on bias.

Although not all conflicts result from bias and differences, what should one do to face a dispute? Is it from the changing of perspective or trying to avoid a conflict? Is it plausible to keep away from problems or keep on agreeing with others’ views?

To eliminate bias, one needs to respect another regardless of the position of the person. One could hardly change one’s status and background. The differences that eventually led to a bias is unavoidable. A conflict will arise if the biased mindset is unresolved.

While respect itself is unable to make one free from conflict, one needs to find a way to face it when it comes. Negotiation is required as every single decision may not satisfy all stakeholders. With respect and negotiation, most parties could avoid and resolve potential disagreements.

Respect and negotiation is a way to resolve potential biases and conflicts.”

How do you resolve a conflict and bias among the groups?

Generalist vs Specialist

Do you prefer to be a generalist or a specialist?

Understanding knowledge and information would be beneficial for one. Other than technical skills, practical information is a necessary soft skill for having a better career.

Some people master a particular area, which could solve any specific problem in their circle of competence. A specialist doctor would understand diseases of an organ and could render effective treatment to patients.

On the other hand, a generalist, a person that could have a broad understanding of various topics. In a way, a generalist could be a practical person who enables one to find topics to talk about due to broad topic exposure. In a way, these people have no specific strength in a particular field.

With the limited time that everyone has, one needs to choose a career path, a specialist or generalist. Being a specialist, one needs to dedicate his time to master the skill. Whilst a generalist would need to get the exposure that could broaden his skills set. Therefore, is there a rule of thumb or a definite answer for choosing which path?

When one lives in a small community, one needs to have a versatile skill due to the lack of proper division of labour. In this situation, then becoming a generalist would be in the upper hand. The versatile skills would help one to survive and compete in a small community.

However, the improvement of society has divided the job in a specific way, where the training is to solve a particular problem. Being a specialist is not only able to solve an issue adequately. It could also help to the improvement of general society.

In this fast-paced era where the technology and skill demand updated at an unprecedented rate, a particular skill-set may not be used in the next two decades. Therefore, in a way, one should be a specialist while should not ignore any potential for expanding one’s skill. Therefore, a proper balance of a generalist and specialist could be the best for one’s development.

“Generalize and specialize could take time. A mixture of both could make one excellent in a way.”

What are the skills that you want to learn broadly and deeply?

Reflection, A Self-Understanding Action

How does self-reflection help one to understand oneself?

A mirror is used to see appearance. Whenever it is used, it reflects anything that passes through it. Within the reflection, everyone could see the objective reality that could be interpreted differently.

Humans would behave accordingly based on other’s actions. When one actions, others react instinctively based on their best interest. Despite people could act based on their best interests, do people understand their actions?

Any action does not have a correct answer. The differences would also lead to arguments, discussion, and different opinions among people. One could understand whether what one did is correct or not based on what others see.

However, it is not necessarily accurate to let others define you. It would make one people-pleasing while losing genuine identity. With a balance of understanding and reflecting, one of the approaches is to consider opinions from others. A collective message from people is aligned and show the proximity with the social norm.

It is easy to understand the world from our senses. However, none of our five senses can understand our inner emotions and actions directly. A constantly thinking and listening is fruitful after the execution of every move. A balance of thinking and listening is the key to understanding one’s inner self.

A constant reflection does not only make a person understand own flaw and weakness, but also orients oneself to achieve life satisfaction. With the willingness of listening and emphasize on others, one could be self-aware and self-conscious.

“Being reflective, one could be more responsible with every single action taken.

How do you understand yourself? Is it from reflection or other ways?

Protection and Freedom

Have you been stopped to do something risky by your parents when you’re young? How does it affect your growth?

A child, a potential, is necessary to be nurtured and guided by the parents. With a dependent and fragileness, a child is often fragile and protected by their parents. Under the prolonged upbringing, a child’s behaviour would be based on the environment the child in. Arguably, a family has the most significant impact on a child’s growth.

The dependency would usually decrease from the exposure that the child experience from the world. On another side, a protective attitude would inhibit a child from exploring the world. Stereotypically, it happens in some families that hold a conservative value.

When a child is trying to ride a bicycle, the parents are stopping him from trying out. Because the parents are afraid that their child would have an injury, they try to protect their child. Denying the possibility of declining the curiosity of the child would transform into avoidance. When the child has grown up, he/she would likely avoid the overcome the obstacles.

Indeed, protection is necessary when the child is facing some hardships. The role of the parents is to provide safe shelter physically and emotionally to their offspring. To become a reliable support system, the parents can take a friendly approach that closes the gap between parents and child.

On the other hand, a child usually is easily affected by any influences. The influence varies from the positive examples that inspire to the destructive environments that would let one astray during the growing process. Therefore, the freedom that is given should be limited to a certain extent.

It is challenging to provide a child chance to experience but preventing a child from getting astray. With the protection, the parents are protecting their fear. With the lack of dependency, the child would grow out of control that would grow infamously. Therefore, a suitable degree of protection and freedom is needed by a child to grow confidently.

Parents play a huge role to provide a necessary protection and freedom to their offspring.”

Do your parents make you regret based on their way of raising you?

The Right Man on The Right Position

How does one maximize his/her talent?

When having social interaction, it is not hard to find other people strength based on their action. Some manifest through their hobbies, while others manifest it through their dreams and goal. While everyone bears a unique talent, one is more suitable for pursuing a specific career than the others.

Some people are expressing their talents by unleashing their potential through constant training, self-alignment, and self-reflection. The enjoyment and passion when one facing a challenge has made one go through all obstacle. Eventually, it makes one honing oneself into a better being.

The effort itself is not enough for one to be successful. The fact that everyone defines success differently, the general public would have a consensus on successful traits. Successful traits are closely related to work and life satisfaction. Therefore, what makes one feel successful and satisfied?

Firstly, stability comes when the work can keep the subsistence, which is a basic human need. More than that, self-actualization is required to make one feels more meaningful. However, before countless steps to actualize oneself, what is the first action?

Everyone has a different competence level and personality, where makes one suitable in one position than another. To be realistic, not everyone wants to be on the bottom of the hierarchy level. However, the right position should be held with the right person to maintain the order of society.

For one at the bottom of society, one needs to increase the competency through constant exposure to manageable challenges, such as studying, trying out new works, training, etc. It is relatively hard to change one’s personality as it is affected by the environment. Therefore, one needs to do the work that is suitable for one’s personality.

Sometimes when one is not doing well on the task. It is not necessarily due to indolence. On the other hand, competency and personality could impact the synergy. Therefore, it is wise to re-orient the capability to achieve maximum output. With the re-alignment, one could feel meaningful and valuable.

“By improving one’s competency and personality, one could optimize oneself and satisfy with the life.”

Do you work in the right position? If not, what is your action?

Appearance, Does It Matter?

Appearance, does it that important?

In this era, with the development of the economy, where one could afford something more and have time to pursue a lifestyle. Pursue a lifestyle has become a way for one to have self-actualization. One aspect that one could pursue lifestyle is through fashion and beauty.

Everyone has a different scorecard for beauty. People tend to enjoy something more beautiful. Although it sounds cliché, yet some are not aware of the importance of beauty. A particular society could have a stereotype of not only in term of good or bad but also happens in terms of beauty.

The culture of appearance has deeply instilled in the society, where globalization enhances people standard of beauty. Despite there is no fixed standard, there is a consensus of what one considered beauty. This argument could be supported by the development of influencer and stars that usually has set up a standard of beauty for society.

In a trivial way, when one is asked whether one considers attractiveness based on appearance. Some may reply that appearance does not matter. The answer may make one believes that one is not a superficial being. However, one could not deny the human nature of one’s propensity for appreciating beauty.

The importance of beauty does not mean that one should disdain people with less attractiveness. However, one should be aware that appearance is the way that how one is responsible towards life. Imagine if a guy does not properly shave the beard or never bathe. It does reflect one’s attitude towards life.

The appearance that one has is built up based on habits that are difficult to be changed. However, one could change it slowly through constant feedback. Appearance is not merely a superficial aspect, but it reflects one’s attitude towards life.

Do you think that appearance matters? How important that you think it is?

Revealing the Unwanted, Overcome the Fear

When encountered an issue involving others, why one needs to open up?

“Oh no, I have forgotten to turn off the boiler …. “, ” Ahhh … I forget today there is an important meeting…”. It is also stressful and annoying when one has to forget some key events. While some events would bring a domino effect that severely affects others, it is anxious to tell other people about issue in an emergency.

The fear of disclosing the problem is mainly due to several reasons. The fear of criticism from others could be the main reason why people refuse to tell the truth. Other than affecting self-esteem, but it could make others question the ability to solve issues.

Another reason is the belief that things will go well without telling anyone. When one has breached the rules, one may believe it could be ignored and passed eventually. Sometimes it may work while the issue is ignored. However, it does not always work in every scenario. Therefore, one needs to evaluate whether needs to tell the incident.

It may not have consequences if one has committed a mistake when one is young. When one grows older, one may bear more responsibilities in various forms – career, family, etc. It is inevitable for a human to make mistakes. However, when one has gone astray and denying to admit. In a way, it could lead to a catastrophe in one’s life.

For instance, a corrupted official has refused to admit his mistake. To hidden the issue, he threatened others by using his power. The ignorance of the rectification is not only destroying the personality and of the transparency of his agency. Willful blindness from his action would bring negative consequences to the people.

To sum up, one may have fear telling the truth when it is unfavourable to the truth-teller. However, one needs to overcome the fear and bear the consequences and responsibility before things getting worse. By rectifying the issue, one becomes mentally stronger to face further challenges.

“By rectifying the mistake, it does not show one’s weakness. Instead, it shows the willingness and perseverance to solve the problem.”

What will you do if you encountered an emergency issue?