The Aberration of Norm

Why do people feel offended by the action from people with different cultures?

Every society is ruled by its people with the support of its laws and norms. The laws directly control the people to ensure the people are under control. Other than the explicit rules that would bring direct consequences, there is an implicit rule called norm,

Norm is the implicit rules that control the way people behave in society. To be accepted by society, a person should conform to the norms. Although it is not explicitly complying, the disregard could result in unacceptance from the surrounding.

Society has developed distinct norms and laws due to its history, culture, and necessary development. Among these three, culture has the most significant impact. It does not mean the law imposed has less impact.

When one is raised in a homogeneous society, one should fully apprehend the underlying rules. However, it could be hard for a person who has a very different culture adapting the custom. The unintentional action may become misconduct due to the misunderstanding.

The unintentional action done may seem offensive. However, it is due to the different ways of upbringing that resulted in differences. Some societies with higher tolerance would welcome new ideas and tend to be progressive. On the other hand, some conservative groups may exclude outsiders preserving the local culture.

For oneself, one should be aware of the local custom when travelling or staying in another place. On the other hand, there is an occasion when one may encounter a foreigner with different habits. It is important to communicate if the action is offensive. Being aware of the aberration, one could defuse a potential conflict from the misunderstanding.

How do you appreciate the norm from other cultures?

An Emotional Hijacking

How does one behave during the emotional hijacking?

The emotional dynamic of humans is shaped through life events, the environment, and the value system of the surroundings. Some people can take negative emotions better than others and perform well under stress.

The negative emotions that one possesses can be a double-edged sword depending on the situation. Negative emotion can be triggered when the trigger could harm the person’s survival or self-interest. Negative emotion functioned as an alarm system in the human body.

When the alarm has been activated frequently, the body will start to normalize the alarm system. It could be the default mode of one’s emotion. If one has been pressured chronically, one could be anxious easily. If one has been severely taken advantage of, one may become depressed.

Negative emotions sometimes can help one to become more productive. The anxiety can make one more careful and hardworking. Fear can let one follow the rule. The proper display of anger would make one respect the other.

The main issue is when one is doing something irrational and unreasonable when the emotion is out of control. When one self sabotages oneself, it will be harmful to the surrounding.

Negative emotion is not necessarily a bad thing. One way is to improve self-awareness through active listening to other people. Moreover, understanding the trigger would eventually help one possess negative emotions. With the control, it would gradually transform one to become a better person.

“Negative emotions could be a double-edged sword depending on how one controls it.”

What is the last time you have negative emotions? How do you handle it?

A Distorted Virtue

When a person criticizes the other, is it constructive? If not, why do people keep doing it?

One may encounter actions that do not fit the personal value in daily life. A person with high cleanliness standards may find a person not as clean as him as dirty. The difference may lead to the inner critic that may convey to other people.

When the difference leads to an unpleasant feeling, one may start to complain or criticize to make things in “order”. The way to convey the problem will be detrimental to the relationship if the issue delivery is not done appropriately.

The delivery of the issue should be per the person’s personality. Some prefer a confrontation, while others prefer an indirect approach. The wrong method may lead to hatred feelings for the critic. The willingness to rectify the issue eventually becomes the action to escalate the problem.

Other than the wrong approach to escalating problems, selfishness and overfocus on self-interest will result in a detrimental outcome. Ideally speaking, it will lead to distorted criticism, which is not a virtue. The lie of commission and omission will lead to misinterpretation.

The misinterpretation leads to the wrong action taken. It would lead to a toxic environment where productivity and emotional health will be affected. An open conversation between both parties is necessary to prevent misunderstanding to stop the cycle of condemning others.

Selfishness and self-interest that harms the other will eventually lead the life into a living hell. Therefore, controlling the emotion, telling the truth, and showing empathy will alleviate the issue. Through these actions, true virtue will only prevail in life.

Have you experienced a distorted fact that makes you suffer?

Cooperation and Competition

What is the best option for human relationships, Cooperating or competing?

Human survival has resulted from countless collaborations and competition. On one side, collaboration is implemented to achieve a mutual goal that requires cooperation between stakeholders. On the other hand, competition is to fight for the limited resources to fulfil the needs and wants,

The capability to cooperate has brought an unprecedented progression to society. An individual only has a limited physical and cognitive ability where it is impossible to achieve something single-handedly. Creating a project that requires manpower-intensive labour often makes one realize the insufficiency of capability. With the connectivity between humans nowadays, cooperation can be easily actualized globally.

To be cooperative, not everyone is necessary to have a shared goal, yet the stakeholders should not have any conflict of interest. For example, a company owner wants to grow the company while his employee wants to get a salary.

Collaboration may arguably be promoted more than the competition. Competition can be done indirectly in a human interaction unless it is officially created and established. Competition, positively speaking, could improve the outcome by being innovative and achieving better resource allocation.

However, competition in an unhealthy way could result in deteriorated outcomes. Unhealthy competition can harm the opposition while it is not necessarily being productive. The main focus shifted from improving the quality to creating some inhibition and counterproductive action.

In a way, the counterproductive action arguably will harm the stakeholder. Yet, human proclivity for self-interest always becomes the priority in the competition. Collaboration and competition are adopted based on personal stances and interests.

One often decides to pick up either option in a scenario. However, the lack of flexibility often makes the decision-maker ignore the optimal outcome by picking one of the options. By cooperating and competing healthily, it could create a value that would be beneficial.

“By not limiting the option in cooperation or competition, keeping the flexibility could result in better decision making.”

What is your opinion on deciding when to cooperate and compete?

Spectrum of Excitement

Why do people have a different spectrum for excitement?

Getting excited has made people be more looking forward to their lives. The action that one does, other than responsibility, is often to pursue the excitement in their lives. Some are expressing their excitement, while others are struggling for it.

Excitement can be triggered in different ways. A person may feel high by going for a spiritual tour, while another will feel excited by getting a good grade. The excitement can be generated through the gratification or reward received.

However, people assess excitement in different ways. For instance, some appreciate jazz more than pop. On the other hand, one may disdain people who like to party. The excitement that one experiences sometimes cannot be related to others.

The experiences and personality that are shaped by the environment would decide the way how people reacts. Moreover, the lifestyle that one possesses also determine a person’s capability to delay gratification. The ability to delay gratification can be trained and shaped through circumstances faced.

The trouble arises when one cannot appreciate the way others pursue pleasure. Ultimately, the root cause is the different belief systems that separate one from another. One will always encounter people that have a different value system.

One does not necessarily need to understand others’ tastes for excitement. Instead, one should respect others’ ways to pursue pleasure. One may have a new perspective when encountering new things from others and slowly broaden the way to enjoy life.

On what occasion you will enjoy it the most? Are you enjoying life expressively and lively?

The Replacement of Cognitive

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What are the things that can challenge human cognition in labour?

The miraculous transformation of life standard undeniably through the remarkable transformation The process that began with manual dexterity ended with cognitive capability prevails in world progression. It indicates the changing of workforce characteristics in the last few centuries.

The promotion of education in the last few decades has brought the transformation of human productivity, where positive externality amplifies the industrious mindset of people. Specifically, these people have brought significant changes, where competitiveness goes along with progression concurrently.

The flow of information and the ability of a computer to gather data has been unprecedented better than humans. Knowledge retained in a brain can be easily replaced by a minuscule fragment of memory disc and with a higher retention rate. Additionally, the detailed calculation can be calculated by hyper-speed computers and machines.

Ironically, humans will make much more errors than machines nowadays. The bias to make a decision can be solved by decision tools software. While it produces much less error than humans, human intervention could improve the capability.

In many ways, technology has given the ability for humans to do much more things than before. The ability to solve problems that humans can’t solve also made it a double-edged sword that arguably would increase the complacency mentality.

Cognitive ability has become more fluid and profound than before. One lives in an era where only the selective cognitive ability is worth more than the others. The present challenge for the modern world is the work that requires intelligence could be replaced by technology. Novel ideas and skills have become more relevant and keep humans competitive.

While human enjoys technology, human also needs to increase the capability to harness technology to simplify the work. The increase of processing systems will enable humans to change the workforce characteristic to be technologically adaptive.

“Harnessing technology and keep learning can be the way for humans to stay competitive in this technology-driven world.

What is the thing that you think could challenge human cognition?

The Accelerated Development

Will humans have a more enjoyable life in a world with fast-paced development?

A brand new phone series always amazed millions of tech-lovers with the feature that seems elegant that improves the quality of usage. With the fast-paced development, the new phone will obsolete sooner than before.

The shifting of attention to something novel is not only applicable in the technology sector. An influencer or singer with countless fans may be ignored faster than before. The tendency towards novelty becomes the culprit of the short attention span.

There are many remarkable breakthroughs in various human aspects due to effective project development and innovation in this modern society. The progress that changes human lives significantly brings unprecedented connectivity among people.

Ironically, the cost of development is often through the sacrifice of resources. The work initially wished to improve living standards to make life more convenient. On the other hand, the hierarchy of society demands more projects to keep the development ongoing.

The development is not necessarily detrimental as it supports the constant progression of society. However, one should avoid creating a project for the sake of running a project, where it will result in a counter-productive outcome and lowering morale.

With the wants of development, one will try to break the capabilities threshold. The development arguably will bring a positive impact to the human being. However, it also will force people to work more to sustain the rate.

It is not feasible to slow down the rate of development (at least nations and corporations won’t allow it). The global scale of competitiveness ensures that development machines work non-stop. For a person, it is profound to decide whether the development aligns with the personal goal and value. Else, the progression wave will affect a person adversely.

The development can’t be decelerated, yet one can reevaluate whether it is necessary to keep it going or slow it down.

What is your opinion of the accelerated development of this world?

Revolution and Development

Do revolution and progress always correlate with development?

The rise of humanity in our mother nature is supported by the countless progression and revolutions that constantly bring changes to the Earth. The changes and progress will change people’s norms to a certain degree.
Progression has been appreciated in every aspect of life.

Progress has constantly brought humanity to enjoy a better standard of life. One often not fully aware of the living standard is through the countless invention and breakthroughs. Progress occurs in different scales from countries development to celebrate a small personal goal. The project should align with the public interest. Otherwise, it may harm the established system.

To a certain extent, it will eventually reach stagnation if there is no innovation. The stagnation is the outcome of the complacency mentality. If innovation and a robust system are absent, the resistance provided by stagnation will lead to a revolution.

The revolution, in a positive way, such as the innovation of novel technology and the finding of new medicine. However, not all resistance happened without any sacrifice. The uprising that abrupt people’s fate will usually come with a cost, such as war or the change of era.

Progression and revolution inevitable contribute to the change of this world. It juxtaposes each other where it is unstoppable as humans will continue progress. To embrace continual improvement and innovation, one needs to constantly adapt to changes while reevaluating the value that has been accumulated.

Revolution and progression are the key factors of human development.”

What is your opinion regarding revolution and progression?

Intriguing Irrelevancy

Are you drawn to ideas that may be irrelevant to your daily life?

This world has an unlimited possibility from countless forces acting upon this world. Humans try to understand the world by studying what happens and reacting accordingly. With intelligence and curiosity, humans can transform possibilities into a controllable force.

Other than understanding the world, humans also can imagine abstract ideas. The abstract is not only reflected one’s intelligence. The idea itself is also a symbol of consciousness. The hybrid of the traits can be harnessed for the positive development of this world.

Human needs information to make better decision to ensure human survival. In this fast-paced era, the excess often leads one to discuss topics that are irrelevant to us. The war ongoing in the Middle East will have almost no direct effect on the one who lives in South America.

By scrutinizing individually, a person may be intrigued by the news that happened to surround us. By overpaying attention to the information, one may ignore the critical agenda. The irrelevant information will mislead one to prioritize other things.

However, the irrelevancy itself could be beneficial in two conditions. First, the irrelevancy thought is supported by the action. Second, the originality of the idea that free from mass influence. The promotion of independent thinking in this era ironically is controlled by the powerful one, which is much more influencing than before.

t may seem that one should avoid irrelevant information. However, intrigue can help one to train critical thinking. To tackle the issue, one should select the correct media to obtain information and not over-focus on things that is not relevant. It is crucial to give attention to the relevant information. The information is not only saving time on trivial stuff but also improves imagination and critical thinking.

How much of your time do you spend on irrelevant things?

The Art of Asking

When one meets people, what should one ask? How does asking affect the impression and perception during the conversation?

“Asking” is fundamentally used for getting answers from any relevant sources. By asking, one can gain relevant knowledge that may apply in the future. With the technology advancement, the information can be acquired through typing several keywords instead of finding multiple information from books/people.

We can virtually know everything by searching the correct keywords on the internet. The overwhelming information can be acquired where one may hardly digest the information given may mislead one to make a wrong decision.

Ideally speaking, most people could get the trivial information by asking, unless the information is premium. Virtually speaking, it would not become an issue for that. Provided the intelligence that the algorithm possesses, it can provide objective input to the user. The data is gathered by processing countless facts and subjective experiences, though it could be manipulated by the programmer.

With the objectiveness and lack of emotion that algorithms have, the focus on the art of asking should shift to human interaction. One could provide the answer through opinion and subjective experiences.

One would tend to share something that one is passionate to others. By asking a question related to one’s hobby, the interaction benefits mutual parties. The person who enquires will gain the information, while the listener feels appreciated with the knowledge possessed.

It is also a way to create a small talk topic by asking something related to the listener. However, there is a caveat: the question asked must be genuine. The effect will be detrimental where one asks a question where the counterparts realize it is used for the conversation extension.

The depth of the question is also varies with the person one talks to. An extrovert may prefer to have a casual conversation. On the other hand, an introvert will be more interested in talking about something in-depth. A person background also could play a significant factor in the question topics. If one would ask a question that is too simple or unrelated, the listener may look down on the asker.

“Asking” in human interaction is not merely a way to get an answer, where this “action” can be supported by technological advancement. However, “asking” still play a crucial role in human interaction, where people can gauge competency and impression. Therefore, “asking” can be a double-edged sword that can determine one’s social skill, where the art of asking varies from one another.

What is your way of asking? Is “asking” important in social interaction?