A Senseless Hoarding

Will you get rid of the items that have been kept for a long time?

People get excitement in various ways. One of them is to own new stuff. Purchasing new shoes, a new laptop, or even a new car will boost mood temporarily. Humans tend to appreciate the new things, as new items will be indicated as a sign of beauty.

A new item often comes along with inactive usage of the previous one. The disposal is mainly affected by the item properties. An old shirt and phone will likely be stored in a cupboard or drawer, while an old car is most probably sold.

Moreover, as humans are emotional creatures, one may not dispose of an item because of the feeling of belonging. Supported by the guilt of wasting, prevent one to dispose of the spoiled item. It usually happens to someone that is not materialistically stable in a certain period.

The tendency and the sense of belonging will eventually result in the hoarding of unutilized items. The items will eventually fill up the whole space if no action is taken. Hoarding could be associated with one’s laziness and ignorant attitude.

Disposal is necessary to make the space look better that may eventually freshen our minds. However, it doesn’t mean getting rid of every single thing that is not used. Some items remind us of a meaningful experience that is irreplaceable, such as photos. The memory should not be correlated with the period that one uses the item, such as phones.

The feeling of wasting money and items is not the same as senseless hoarding. By sorting and disposing of items wisely, it is not only clearing out the room to make the space look better. Instead, it is the way of liberation from meaningless ownership.

What items that you have not used for a long time but refuse to throw away?

Holistic Picture or Detail Approach?

Do you have a tendency to see a holistic picture or drawn to see a specific detail?

Everyone has a different style of perceiving how things work. Some will think the bigger picture of what’s happening microscopically. Another is going to investigate the microscopic detail. The two mindsets can be applied differently in different circumstances.

However, people will tend to think in one way than another. It will result in certain people will give a similar pattern of input and comment, i.e. working and speaking style. Among people, there will be opinions that often contradict one another. However, there is a better opinion within the discussion, often due to the correct approach taken.

A person who understands the bigger picture will be suitable for managing a team to see the issue holistically. To be good at it, one needs to get exposure to various components to know what’s going on. A mind mapping skill is usually required for one to see a bigger picture.

On the other hand, some people are more capable of a spontaneous incident where the solution can be decided on the circumstances. These types of people focus on the present issue that often suggests a practical solution for the moment.

People who have a propensity towards the big picture will think more intuitively than people who think practical. However, over-rely on intuition will be struggling for a fast pace environment and disturbance. Intuition will even obstruct one’s way to action.

Conversely, solving the problem practically without considering the bigger picture may create a conflict of interest that eventually harm the stakeholders. Therefore, one needs to shift the thinking behaviour through action that will steadily train the mindset to consider both directions. By considering both sides, one will be better at solving a wide range of problems,

What action will you do to make yourself have both thinking mindsets?

A Figure to Follow

By following a figure, does it reflect what kind of value one has?

In this world, there are countless successful people in their fields. In their areas, a figure inevitably has some followers or admirers. There are thousands and millions of fans that freak out and are meticulously lookout for the actions and behaviours of their idol.

Other than idols, some figures demonstrate outstanding abilities in their fields. The demeanour they figure express emanates the quality that the admirers desire. By exhibiting this quality, it piques people’s inner desire to be the person they follow.

The figure available in society is not always the one that has the positive quality for the others. As there is no definite right or wrong on a person’s value, the figures in society exert their influences in different ways. With influence capability, a person may get more approval than others.

By representing the value of a group, a leader who is subjectively having a distorted view may be followed by a mass. By showing resonance to the public, he is depicted as a hero to deliver mass aspiration.

A villain could be admired through his charisma and fighting the existing system and structure. For instance, Robin Hood, despite stealing from the rich, the poor have supported him due to his ability to fight the structured social system.

A figure’s personality and capability may be admired and influencing. It could affect one’s actions and behaviour. Therefore, it could bring an impact on their followers. View from another perspective, a person’s value can be seen from what the person follows. Therefore, to be ideal, it is substantial to choose the correct figure to follow.

What kind of figure that you wish to follow?

Intention: A Interpretation of Emotion

How to pick up an intention through understanding emotion?

Every day we will encounter a range of emotions that indicates the mood of a person. One expresses emotion distinctively based on the situation, circumstances, and person. Based on the mentioned factors, emotion can be concealed, exaggerated, or expressed freely.

It is common if a kid is crying when getting a bad grade. When one is growing up, one could better control the emotion to fit in the social norm. An adult who expresses emotion bluntly to others will deem as impulsive behaviour.

The emotion can be controlled and developed through the experience. It is common to see a grandpa is wiser due to the experiences that shape his view. The self-awareness that one possesses is often polishing traits into an ideal.

When humans are getting information externally, the precursor will catalyze specific reactions. For example, when a person is informed that his house is on fire, the immediate response is either being anxious or shocked. After one is trained emotionally, the reaction could alter in a better way.

The alteration will conceal intention by not directly showing the authentic feeling to another, believe that others will misjudge. However, there is still some cues to detect people wants.

A track record of the previous action can be harnessed as a good gauge of intention. When the emotion expressed differs from the past action, there is a discrepancy in the impression. When the disconformity appears frequently, one could understand the response shown is not always what it is.

Moreover, some emotions could be interpreted to certain emotions in certain circumstances. For instance, a person that praises abnormally can be seen as a sign of hostility or expressing materialistic behaviour.

It could take a long time to master emotion control and emotion reading. People act accordingly to one another that the mask only can be seen through the aftermath. However, by scrutinizing the emotion, one could see the indication and understand people more deeply. By understanding the intention, one could protect oneself and adapt oneself to socialize.

“An apparent emotion can be interpreted to a hidden intention through scrutinization.”

How is your way to understand other people intentions?

Maturity and Responsibility

How does being maturely related to responsibility?

Growing up seems like an inevitable process that everyone must go through. A child may aspire to be an ideal figure after grown-up, primarily to be impactful in society. During the childhood and adolescent period, one is likely to be full of imagination and potential.

After slowly understand how the world works, imagination and potential will gradually substitute into reality. With the exposure from the environment, the alignment shapes the equilibrium between fantasy and reality.

When one is young, one can be carefree and impulsive. Avoid schoolwork while hanging out until late at night often come with little to no consequences. Moreover, one could be assessed as attractive by fighting the system and being rebellious.

The sudden increase of responsibility getting obvious when one has started dedicating oneself to a career. When one ignores being responsible, one may face consequences that may be detrimental. It prohibits one acts recklessly and complying with a social norm.

When one just graduated from school, one may still enjoy life by hanging out and live in the present. However, when one has reached middle-aged, the need to have some result in some aspect such as family, financial, career, etc.

With the growth of life quality, people need to work lesser to gain the same output. With a protected environment, one may get older with no willingness to take responsibility. Long term speaking, the effect could be dangerous to a person by increasing the dependency on other people.

To have a steady mindset, one needs to have a willingness to bear life responsibility. By not avoiding responsibility, one could transform the predicament into a memorable memory. It could also let one become a mature person with great inner strength.

“The courage of facing responsibility is a clear sign of a person’s maturity.”

How do you assess the maturity of a person?

Detailing and Productivity

How does detail will make things getting productive? Is it always like that?

The advancement of life quality can be accounted from the ability of the human to scrutinize and innovate. With the ability to innovate, one could solve the issue and propose a beautiful and creative solution. The innovation can be through the continual improvement of the system or through mastering particular skills.

By paying attention to the minuscule, one could understand what the root cause is. However, there are several pre-requisite to identifying the cause. First, one needs to be exposed to be gain the understanding to a certain level. Second, one needs to focus on the big picture and act in the interest of all stakeholders.

A group of untrained laymen theoretically would not contribute a significant input to solve a scientific or engineering problem. By giving them too many details, the group will confuse and eventually does not bring any progress.

People desire on understanding the details may not always lead to a solution. It occurs when the party getting information yet is unable to change the outcome. To some extent, it could waste a significant amount of time just only because of the desire for detail. Some activities such as meeting, making an additional report, and redundant protocol could prevent the progress.

In the workplace, these detail will lead to micromanagement and unrequited effort. Initially, the initial intention is to make things getting smoother. However, it may lead to a delay of work and an increase in group stress.

Detail may help one to understand what is going on. However, over-focusing may not increase productivity. Despite the fact, insight can help to solve the problem if one could harness the information effectively. On the other hand, understanding a situation without any concrete action will not keep things going.

“Detail can be useful and helping one getting more productive if harnessed effectively.”

Communication and Implication

What implication could one get from a conversation?

Every day we communicate with each other to express wants and needs. When we were young, we could explicitly convey needs by simply showing our intention. The intention is usually imaginative, simple and clearly defined.

When a boy wants to buy a new toy, he may nag his mother or even embarrass her to get the toy. The demeanour is much more straightforward than adults. It is relatively much easier to understand what a person thinks during childhood.

After going through countless events that shape one personality, an adult would eventually fit into the social norm. It can be manifested by refraining from being frank for getting social approval. However, the way of talk changes gradually when one getting older, yet it may not change what one thinks,

Comparing a kid with his counterpart, an adult went through various experiences and know-how to handle a particular social situation. By effective communication and willingness to cater for another, and turn the interaction into an advantage. It happens when one is aware of what happens and its consequences.

There are moments that a person is not willingly sharing what one genuinely think. It happens mainly due to consideration, past experiences, and intention. From the different personalities, an event/incident can be described in various expressions.

Back to the communication, how does one connecting the dot between the interaction with the intention? Some people are good at showing their wants to others, while others may hide it to prevent anyone understands their shadows. To understand the situation and what one means, one needs to listen carefully and be familiar with body language.

It may be easier to control what we say, yet it may feel harder to control the body reaction when reacting with a precursor. To understand a person better, one can pay attention to body language. One could be surprised by finding the subtle clue. By understanding the implication, one could improve communication through a deeper understanding of each other.

“By paying attention to how one communicates, one could understand the implication and react better to another.”

What is your communication style? Are you satisfied with your communication style?

Credibility and Fortune

How does credibility related to one’s fortune?

When one has opened a phone or going out for a walk, we would encounter some of the familiar faces, such as public figures. These public figures bring an influence in some ways. Pop artists influence society lifestyle, while politicians are steering the direction of a country.

With their influences and popularity, people would perceive these figures as precious, where create something more impactful than “ordinary people”. In other words, they possess credibility in society that people put more trust in them than other people.

The main components of the credibility among these individuals are from the exposure and impact that they have strived. When one is more familiar with a person, and when the person has a positive image among people’s perception, it will significantly improve the image of this person.

Moreover, the impact can be in various ways. A medal winner to make the people of the country proud of him. A musician composes a Billboard-hitting masterpiece that makes people crazy for him. With the validation from the public, the credibility would make them charismatic ambassadors.

However, some people are not well-known yet influential and generate some fortunes on the top of their fields. The key is not to become purely popular but become a credible person. A charismatic person is not necessarily good, yet capable of influencing people and possesses positive self-branding.

Credibility and fortune affect each other significantly. It happens especially when the primary income is through personal influence, such as politicians and artists. Therefore, one should build a self-brand and become a credible person. It is not only creating fortune, but it would also let others have respect for the person.

“Credibility is an essential element to a personal fortune. where one could cultivate it through self-branding.”

In this globalization era, which one is more important for a person? Competency or credibility?

Too Hard to Grasp, Too Easy to Focus

How to enjoy yourself more when doing a task?

Every day one is doing many tasks, whether it is pleasing or unpleasing. Some are mundane such as doing housework, while others are spirit-raising, doing novel activities or facing challenges. The tasks done will more or less affect one’s mood.

The tasks performed could affect one’s mood to some extent. When it seems boring, one could feel not challenging and unmotivated, which usually happens when it is mundane. On the other hand, when the task is too hard, one may feel stressed and losing interest in the activity itself.

Therefore, one needs to find a perfect balance to mix the task that is not too easy to get bored and some brain-intensive activity. It would make one feel great when accomplishing the tasks. However, it won’t be that ideal that the task assigned is always in one’s favour.

If a task is unavoidable, find meaning or reason will help one to get through the process. One could also set up an ultimate goal if it relates to the long term impact, with the aim it could also set up the benchmark on the progress,

Ultimately, there are things that one enjoy or hate. To fully enjoy the task, one can implement the reward system after one has completed a difficult task. When one has put a remarkable effort to make things interesting, it’s time to enjoy them.

What would you do to make your tasks enjoyable?

Music, A Recalling Experience

Will you recall a particular experience when playing a song?

Music, a beautiful arrangement that resonance, has helped one to trigger and express emotion. With countless genres, one could have a specific taste that could not replicate from one to another. One could dance to a particular melody while can’t relate to a song from another genre. Hence, a masterpiece could be a nuisance for others.

One could often express an identity through a song that one listens. It also often reflects the personality and upbringing culture. Other than the mainstream genres that influence the world, music is localized within the country. It could happen due to the language and cultural barrier.

Regardless of the uniqueness of music taste, one could listen to thousands of songs in a lifetime. While experiencing something in daily life, the experience and the song would form a brand new memory.

These memories can be recalled when one has relistened to the song after several months and years. One could roughly feel the vibe at that moment when listening to it for the first time. However, it may not happen to every song that one listen.

Practically speaking, it would be meaningful when one wants to recall a joyful experience. One could try to play the songs that are played when the occurrence. On the other hand, it would make one recall the unpleasant memory when playing it during the bad experience.

The magic of music does not only make people indulge with emotion at present. The fact that the music experience for everyone is unique, this uniqueness could make one linger the song in mind. With this music in mind, one can recall an experience that is invaluable and irreplaceable.

“The embodiment of the melody, lyric, and emotion makes music lingers in one’s life.”

What is your main feeling when you’re listening to music?