Comparison, A Double-Edge Sword

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Are you satisfied by comparing yourself to others?

Nowadays, the first thing that most do after wake up is not doing face washing and having their first meal, but to check what’s happening on social media. When one skims through Instagram stories, one may think why other people have a decent lifestyle. When one reads LinkedIn posts, one may believe that everyone has outstanding career and achievements. While one opens YouTube videos, one may wonder how these people are successful and influential.

Nowadays, the first thing that most do after wake up is not doing face washing and having their first meal, but to check what’s happening on social media. When one skims through Instagram stories, one may think of why other people have a decent lifestyle. When one reads LinkedIn posts, one may believe that everyone has an outstanding career and achievements. While one opens YouTube videos, one may wonder how these people are successful and influential.

It seems like everyone is capable of doing something in different aspects. Some are better in socializing, while others have a better understanding of specific topics. Consequently, one will compare oneself with what other persons have, especially the thing that one doesn’t own. Poverty leads one to admire a well-off person. An orphan may envy to others that still can live together with their families. Other than admiring on something that one doesn’t own, there are other causes why people tend to compare.

Human subconsciously has the underlying tendency to be dominant. One who acts dominantly tend to place oneself in the higher hierarchy in the social circle. One will act more confident with the dominancy one has. That leads one has the underlying tendency to compare one with another, to verify one’s status in the social circle.

Comparing with other people will bring several benefits to people. In a way, it will reflect what we are bad at by showing what other people do. From the imperfection, one could try to rectify the mistake one has done, that leads to self-improvement. On the other hand, other people’s virtue will aspire one to have a direction.

However, the downfall of comparing oneself with others is far worse than the benefit given. One does not have a sense of fulfillment by keeping oneself inside the ‘rat race’. When one struggling and win the ‘rat race’, one still become a ‘rat’ and compete on another race, and it will form a race cycle until one realizes when to go out from the race. Moreover, social media presence exacerbates the downfall. By comparing and giving attention to other people, it will waste one’s time significantly and does not bring any happiness.

Comparing with one another have their own positive and negative aspects. Over comparing with others will significantly eroding confidence and make life more miserable. With the correct way of comparison, it will become a driving force for one to grow.

By comparing oneself appropriately, one will be self-aware and grateful for what one has.

How to compare yourself appropriately with others?

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